Why Listening Is Loving, And How You Can Get A Free Morning Meditation Recording
There was a beautiful moment in a film I was watching the other night (“Hector’s Search For Happiness”) where a terminally ill woman becomes gravely ill on a flight. Hector, a psychiatrist, answers the summons for a doctor on board, but can’t do much more than relieve her of some pain, so he sits and compassionately and listens while she tells her story. She thanks him and tells him that he has a gift, and when he demurs, she says “listening is loving”.
I was struck by the simplicity and power of this statement. We listen for many reasons: because we’re required to, we want information, we’re being entertained by what we’re hearing, we’re being compassionate or kind, because we want to know someone’s story. There’s active, engaged listening, where we’re holding space for someone, giving them our attention, genuinely connecting with them. There’s listening to God or to Spirit. There’s listening to ourselves. But have you ever thought of listening as loving? How many times have we heard people in our lives say that they just need us to listen?
This statement had a profound effect on me. In my work listening is a big part of what I do, and as I reflected on that, I realized that through listening to my clients I am loving them. Through listening to my family, my friends, I am loving them. Through listening to the old lady on the bus, my neighbor and her problems, the sounds of my dogs snoozing or playing, I am loving them. When you really sincerely listen to someone, you are loving them. Allowing your listening to be loving (loving as an act of love, rather than as a quality), the depth and richness of your experience and of others’ experience with you, expands exponentially. Watch the Dalai Lama when you see him listening to someone – he is loving them! What a profound, beautiful way of Being, and so simple!
I invite you to consider putting this practice into your lives, and see how magnificent it feels, how much you are touched by the people around you, and how much you can touch them. I also invite you to consider that listening to yourself is loving. How often, and in how many ways, do we deny ourselves this act of love? I can think of many times where I’ve not honored my feelings but have ‘soldiered on’, or have used a crystal to dull pain instead of asking that part of my body what it needs, or allowed my boundaries to be violated, or didn’t follow guidance out of self-doubt or fear. By listening to ourselves we are honoring and accepting our truth, and honoring and accepting others.
Breathe this into every cell of your being: listening is loving. Consider making it a commitment to yourself and to others. Put that into practice, and you instantly make this world a better place. And we need you to.
Peace, love, and blessings to you all of you,
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