Fork in the Road: How to Make the Best Choice During a Life-Changing Moment
I remember years ago walking across Central Park on my way to a crappy bar job, and I suddenly had a realization that I was in a toxic relationship and also working in a toxic environment. I was confused, unhappy, but also desperately afraid of being broke or alone. My sense of self-worth and self-esteem was at an all-time low, and I knew in that moment that all of this wasn’t healthy for me.
There was a part of me that wanted to turn around right there, walk back to my apartment and quit that job, extract myself from the relationship, and start fresh. And if I could go back in time, that’s what I would have told myself to do, because that was the yearning of my heart and the wisdom of my soul.
Unfortunately, as often happens with people, I chose fear. I stayed in the job, and I stayed in the relationship, right up until the day my life fell apart. I ended up broke and alone anyway, and I had signaled to the Universe that I would need to continue attracting in circumstances and relationships that mirrored my choice of fear, toxicity, and compromise, until such time as I recognized, healed, and resolved that pattern.
Ugh! Needless to say, it took a while.
I didn’t know it at the time, but when that realization hit me in the middle of Central Park, I was actually in the middle of what I now call a “Destiny Moment” or a “God Moment”: a moment where the choice I made would indelibly impact my life and the direction of my life going forward.
A classic example of a Destiny Moment is in the play “Hamlet”: Hamlet has the opportunity to exact his revenge by killing his uncle, the king, while at prayer. While Hamlet’s clearly been guided to that moment, he stops, and chooses to wait for fear that killing the king in a pious state will send him to heaven instead of hell. Unbeknownst to Hamlet, the king was quietly sinning, not praying. Had Hamlet acted on his intuition he would have been successful in his goal, and the rest of the story would have been dramatically different. That was a definite God Moment!
However, this is how the process of life goes – we won’t learn or grow if we do things perfectly every time. So ok, we’re going to make mistakes because that’s part of the divine design, but we’re also on a path of mastery, so can’t we learn to make better choices and lead better lives all the same?
The answer is yes, and yes! While our lives are shaped by the choices we make every day, the more we live in alignment with our souls, and the more we trust, honor, and follow our intuition (our soul’s voice), the more likely we’ll make the best choices when in our Destiny Moments.
As many of you know, I’m a mystic who specializes in healing with crystals, and in retrieving spiritual guidance and wisdom from the Akashic Records (imagine an infinite library where you can access all information about yourself and life, and receive divine guidance and wisdom to help you on your path. That in essence is the Akashic Records and an Akashic Record Reading). The guides in the Akasha will frequently say that our choices determine our destinies, and that the future is mutable. What might be lining up in your future today could change if you made a path altering choice tomorrow.
You might be aware of when you’re in a Destiny Moment, or you might not, but if you start putting your soul connection into practice in your daily life, when that Destiny Moment comes up you’ll be ready.
Here’s how to put your soul connection into practice:
- Work on Developing Your Intuition. Wear a piece of amethyst, shiva lingam, ajoite, or moonstone on a daily basis, and keep a note of what you feel is coming from your intuition. The voice of your intuition will feel like a subtle knowing, and speak to you through thought, image, sound, feeling, or will stand out to you in some way. It will always be positive, and it will never explain itself. Risk being wrong and dare to follow its nudge. The more you do so, the stronger, louder, and clearer your intuitive voice will become.
- Stop and Breathe. Outside stimuli, thoughts, worries, distractions, other people, can all pull you away from your center where your core of truth (your soul) resides. Take a moment to unhook from everything and just focus on your breathing, guiding it down more deeply into where you feel centered.
- Tune In. Once you feel centered, check in with how you’re feeling, how you’re really feeling about something. It could be what you’re choosing from the menu, or whether to say yes to a second date, or a big life decision like putting in an offer for a house. Choices that are in alignment with your soul will always feel positive, empowering, and often times exciting. Choices that are taking you out of alignment will always feel like a letdown or a sinking of your spirit, or varying other degrees of crap or repulsion.
- Ask Yourself What the Brave Choice Would Be. Your soul is perfect, it will never, ever, EVER, lead you astray. Sometimes the brave choice will be the safe choice, sometimes it will be a risk, but in contemplating it, it will always have a feeling of rightness in your gut.
Ultimately whatever you choose will be up to you, and will be ok. Another thing the Akashic guides are fond of saying is that there really aren’t any wrong choices. You always make what you feel are the best choices at the time, and every choice will support your growth and evolution as a soul.
And don’t worry: if you miss it the first time, you’ll have the chance to make the soul-aligned choice again in the future. You have your friend Karma to thank for that! But the more you practice your soul connection, the better off you’ll always be.